Our first was our 12-year-old lab, Max, who suffered from severe hip dysplasia and then got cancer. We opted not to do chemo because he was already feeble. We tried some natural remedies that I do believe gave us a few more good months with him. When we made the decision to put him down, he had stopped eating and could not pick himself up to walk outside.
Our cat got a cancer diagnosis about two years after Max was put down. He was almost 19 years old and the cancer was in his nasal passage, which caused him to not be able to breathe very well. We tried some medications to reduce the size of the tumor, but ultimately we had to put him down about a month after diagnosis, when his reduced oxygen intake made him disoriented and very weak. His kidneys also started failing.
Our second lab, Cooper, who was our first “child†together (Max having come into our marriage from my husband and kitty from me) got a cancer diagnosis about a year after Max was put down, which resulted in us having to amputate one of his hind legs. He rebounded from that almost immediately and enjoyed life as a tripod until last fall. I had noticed that it was taking him some extra time to pull himself up to standing position and that he seemed to lose his balance more often. He was 11, so I did not give it to much thought. We had not noticed any new tumors in our check-ups. Cooper always acted like a puppy and was so happy to be around us. His behavior did not change as he got older; he was always a happy dog and, for some reason, chose me as his favorite person. I liked to call him my 85-pound lapdog.
When he stopped eating for a few days, I immediately took him to the vet. It was cancer again, but this time a different, more aggressive form than what led to the earlier amputation. Hemangiosarcoma.  Cooper had tumors on most of his major organs. These types of tumors were filled with blood vessels in danger of rupturing at any moment and causing massive internal bleeding. In fact, it appeared that some of the tumors may have already ruptured, as his abdomen was partially filled with blood (which is why he would not eat). During the time these tumors were growing and spreading, he never act like he was in pain, he just appeared weaker than normal. I would have to help him into our bed at night (where he normally slept) because he could no longer make the jump. He needed a little assistance walking up steps. He never stopped being the most loving dog, furiously wagging his tail anytime one of us was around.
When the vet confirmed the nature of the cancer and the risks of massive internal bleeding if one of the larger tumors ruptured, we made the decision that very day to put Cooper down. While it had been difficult with Max and the kitty, because they both had seemed so physically and mentally ready to go, the grief in making the choice to end their suffering was somewhat manageable. With Cooper, his overall personality remained fairly unchanged. He was still so happy and loving at the time of his last diagnosis. The staff at the vet hospital even remarked on what a happy tail-wagger he was. That made it a much more difficult decision because I wanted to take him home and spend more time with him.
Knowing that the tumors on his organs could rupture at any moment and cause him to have a terrible, painful death, however, helped us make our decision. We could not allow that to happen when we had a chance to ease him into wherever he would next be going. We brought our kids to the hospital and we spent a good hour just hanging out with Cooper in a room by ourselves and saying our goodbyes. When it was time, my husband took my kids out, and I laid down next to Cooper and held him and talked to him while the injections were made and for some time thereafter.
I miss him so much, and even though deep down I know we made the right decision for Cooper, I wonder if he could have comfortably lived a few more months. On the other hand, I also wonder and fear that he had been in pain much longer than we ever knew, and his sweet, loving disposition just masked his pain and discomfort.
All of this is to say that the lives and deaths of Max, kitty, and Cooper have helped me get through other things in my life. After we had put down Max and kitty, my grandmother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at age 92. She was at home with hospice care for several months. I think having gone through the passing of Max and kitty helped me through the passing of my grandmother. I had not previously lost any human member of my family that I was especially close to. My grandmother’s passing in some ways helped me through Cooper’s death (she died about three months before he did), and his passing likewise helped me with accepting my grandmother’s death.
I wish the best for you and Dusty and just wanted to relay that, based on my experience with the four (or three)-legged loved ones in our lives, it is true that you will know when it is the right time to let them go.
The real reason I wanted to write to you, though, was to share a picture with you. During our last moments with Cooper, my husband took a picture of the kids and me with him. I was so torn up after putting him down that it took me two weeks to even look at the picture:
While the photo is a bit fuzzy, I hope you can see the extra-special twinkle in Cooper’s eye. This was his last gift to me and so typical of who he was.
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